Post by dontdeservethis on Jun 5, 2018 17:08:30 GMT
Because I am constantly searching for reasons why, I recently came up with for things that I acknowledge I did wrong. I wrote these things down in abbreviated sentences, and kept them with me all week. I reread them over and over again kind of like a mantra. This helped me immensely and it might help someone else.
I will list my four things here although they won't make much sense to anyone else.
I shouldn't have interfered with her schooling. I always was pushing her 2 go into gifted programs from kindergarten through High School. it would have been much better if I just left it alone.
I should have never rented a house to her. I knew better at the time but I did it anyway. This led to a major blow up when she wouldn't pay any rent and I had to evict her.
After that, I should have never allowed her to move into our house into the guest room. I should have just let her find her own way because this led to another major blowout when she wouldn't follow any house rules and I had to evict her again.
And finally I should have never gone over to her house that she had bought and spent three months cleaning it and fixing it up for her so that she wouldn't lose it to the bank. In the end she lost it anyway and I was still the bad guy.
This is helped me because I can see cause and effect and before I was just wondering in the dark wondering why why why. I don't really regret everything because at the time I was only working with what I knew, and as they say hindsight is 20/20.
Now that's not to say these are the only things that I would have done differently especially in my personal life, but these are the things in relation to my Ed that I would have done differently. This helps me a lot and it might help you. Best wishes.
I will list my four things here although they won't make much sense to anyone else.
I shouldn't have interfered with her schooling. I always was pushing her 2 go into gifted programs from kindergarten through High School. it would have been much better if I just left it alone.
I should have never rented a house to her. I knew better at the time but I did it anyway. This led to a major blow up when she wouldn't pay any rent and I had to evict her.
After that, I should have never allowed her to move into our house into the guest room. I should have just let her find her own way because this led to another major blowout when she wouldn't follow any house rules and I had to evict her again.
And finally I should have never gone over to her house that she had bought and spent three months cleaning it and fixing it up for her so that she wouldn't lose it to the bank. In the end she lost it anyway and I was still the bad guy.
This is helped me because I can see cause and effect and before I was just wondering in the dark wondering why why why. I don't really regret everything because at the time I was only working with what I knew, and as they say hindsight is 20/20.
Now that's not to say these are the only things that I would have done differently especially in my personal life, but these are the things in relation to my Ed that I would have done differently. This helps me a lot and it might help you. Best wishes.
