I'm back--It's so nice to see the support is still here.....
Mar 21, 2017 18:44:22 GMT
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Post by ginateresa on Mar 21, 2017 18:44:22 GMT
I lost you guys for a while....when you moved and I had to leave the site and deal with my own feelings along with other life's speed bumps...
You may not recall me, but I have a teenage daughter and a 20 y/o son whom I am estranged from. The 17 y/o daughter had 'attempted suicide' (not sure if that is true...doc said no evidence of ibuprofen in her system) and been placed in Lakeside about 2 1/2 years ago. She came out from that and did the same things she always did..... She was living with me until late August last year. With her constant threatening to live with her father and planning to in the morning, I suggested that she go ahead now (during one of our many arguments) as she was packing her car--to leave the next day. Anyway, she lives with him now. I am glad....because her rages, manipulation, narcissism, etc. was tearing me apart. Her father isn't doing any better than I did at keeping her in school or from roaming the streets. At least I had the balls to take her car away.....he does nothing. No rules. (as far as I know) My 20 y/o son has cut me off completely and says I should know why. I don't, really. We did have a falling out due to another family Bomb that my daughter delivered and I moved his stuff to his Father's house because he said he didn't want to stay here and told me to F-off. Maybe that's it.....but his anger scared me. I was always friends and spoke to their father often until I began to think that he was badmouthing me to the kids. I know he always made himself out to be the victim to them and anyone else that would listen because he had to pay me child support. I really think there was way more than that being said, so I just quit talking to him. He's on his own raising our daughter.
I am still doing soul searching on myself....was never able to do that as a single parent. I've read many of your posts and tons of online articles on the subject of estrangement.
I couldn't bear to celebrate Christmas last year because I always made cookies with the kids and wanted their help putting up the tree. (they probably only humored me there, anyway) I think I did too much for them, gave them too much and didn't ask for enough respect and responsibilities from them. Hindsight is 20/20?
Now, I'm ready to heal ME. To move on....accept and grieve the loss of my two children, but still thank God that they are alive and healthy. To find what I enjoy and make a new life from this day forward!
I've had my months of reclusive behavior and depression and now I'm ready to find peace. I still pray for my children, but it's time I worked on me. I may never know what happened with my ES, my ED may actually be and always be a Narcissistic person. 'She's just a kid', ....true, but that doesn't mean she isn't.
I do not want the sorrow to consume me. I cannot control how my children feel about me. I can only dig deep inside myself to improve and acknowledge and then implement changes.
I am ready....although it will be an uphill battle at times, God has a purpose for me. I will never find it hiding behind my shame, pain and anger.
Thanks for reading.
Gina
You may not recall me, but I have a teenage daughter and a 20 y/o son whom I am estranged from. The 17 y/o daughter had 'attempted suicide' (not sure if that is true...doc said no evidence of ibuprofen in her system) and been placed in Lakeside about 2 1/2 years ago. She came out from that and did the same things she always did..... She was living with me until late August last year. With her constant threatening to live with her father and planning to in the morning, I suggested that she go ahead now (during one of our many arguments) as she was packing her car--to leave the next day. Anyway, she lives with him now. I am glad....because her rages, manipulation, narcissism, etc. was tearing me apart. Her father isn't doing any better than I did at keeping her in school or from roaming the streets. At least I had the balls to take her car away.....he does nothing. No rules. (as far as I know) My 20 y/o son has cut me off completely and says I should know why. I don't, really. We did have a falling out due to another family Bomb that my daughter delivered and I moved his stuff to his Father's house because he said he didn't want to stay here and told me to F-off. Maybe that's it.....but his anger scared me. I was always friends and spoke to their father often until I began to think that he was badmouthing me to the kids. I know he always made himself out to be the victim to them and anyone else that would listen because he had to pay me child support. I really think there was way more than that being said, so I just quit talking to him. He's on his own raising our daughter.
I am still doing soul searching on myself....was never able to do that as a single parent. I've read many of your posts and tons of online articles on the subject of estrangement.
I couldn't bear to celebrate Christmas last year because I always made cookies with the kids and wanted their help putting up the tree. (they probably only humored me there, anyway) I think I did too much for them, gave them too much and didn't ask for enough respect and responsibilities from them. Hindsight is 20/20?
Now, I'm ready to heal ME. To move on....accept and grieve the loss of my two children, but still thank God that they are alive and healthy. To find what I enjoy and make a new life from this day forward!
I've had my months of reclusive behavior and depression and now I'm ready to find peace. I still pray for my children, but it's time I worked on me. I may never know what happened with my ES, my ED may actually be and always be a Narcissistic person. 'She's just a kid', ....true, but that doesn't mean she isn't.
I do not want the sorrow to consume me. I cannot control how my children feel about me. I can only dig deep inside myself to improve and acknowledge and then implement changes.
I am ready....although it will be an uphill battle at times, God has a purpose for me. I will never find it hiding behind my shame, pain and anger.
Thanks for reading.
Gina