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Post by nightsky on Nov 26, 2016 10:44:27 GMT
I will NOT allow lies to foster my interactions, whether it’s being in denial, being fed lies, or listening to the truth being distorted. I will NOT allow someone to use me, degrade me, or treat me as a "lesser". I will NOT deal with anyone who is unkind, cruel, or lacking in empathy, nor will I deal with those who attempt to take advantage of me &/or abuses me. I will NOT continue engaging in any relationship where I am not treated with love, care, trust, and respect. I will NOT pursue someone who has either directly or passively rejected me. I will NOT spend my time waiting around, whether it’s for their calls, or for them to show up after they’ve disappeared, waiting for them to come back, waiting for them to turn into "The Person I Think They Could/Should Be", or waiting for them to decide if they want to be with me – I will NOT put my life on hold for anyone. I will NOT make up excuses for other people’s behaviors. And I will NOT make any exceptions to my boundaries. These life rules are ones I wish we had put into effect many years earlier with our ES.
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Post by honeycrisp on Nov 26, 2016 15:10:23 GMT
Thank you!!!
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Post by jennb on Nov 26, 2016 20:24:57 GMT
Realizing self worth can be a struggle for some of us... mostly because I think our society expects Mother's to put themselves second to the needs of their children. I've known women who put themselves first and always thought to myself that they were such selfish bitches...man was I wrong😄
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Post by topiarystepmom on Nov 26, 2016 21:25:31 GMT
Sounds like a good plan to me! Thank you!
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Post by sovgrateful on Nov 26, 2016 23:04:20 GMT
WELL SAID Night, I agree entirely!
That has become my motto too after the estrangement..we are changed, and in a good way too!!
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Post by nightsky on Nov 27, 2016 2:58:51 GMT
Realizing self worth can be a struggle for some of us... mostly because I think our society expects Mother's to put themselves second to the needs of their children. I've known women who put themselves first and always thought to myself that they were such selfish bitches...man was I wrong😄 |
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Post by nightsky on Nov 27, 2016 3:59:50 GMT
Realizing self worth can be a struggle for some of us... mostly because I think our society expects Mother's to put themselves second to the needs of their children. I've known women who put themselves first and always thought to myself that they were such selfish bitches...man was I wrong😄 My grandmother was a loving & caring woman who was twice widowed and continued to go forward raising both her own children and her her stepchildren (even though she never used the term step-child). She said the secret to being a successful multi-tasker is one that most people don't want to hear when it comes to women because they think it sounds selfish. That secret was then & is now no different than that of most men - putting yourself first. But her reasoning was more than self-preservation &/or career success. Her reasoning was actually quite selfless - she made sure that each & everyone of her descendants knew that if we did not take proper care of our minds, our bodies, and our souls that none of us would ever be able to take proper care of anyone else. |
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Post by topiarystepmom on Nov 27, 2016 15:51:05 GMT
I think I've mentioned this before - I really admire your grandmother!
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Post by sovgrateful on Nov 27, 2016 23:20:37 GMT
Night's Grandmother, one of our iconic heroes at PWWA!  |
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Post by topiarystepmom on Nov 29, 2016 1:12:30 GMT
I remember!
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Post by treatedlikedirt on Oct 25, 2017 2:29:51 GMT
This is so true. I wish I was strong enough. Low self-esteem. 😢
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