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Post by astlyr on Aug 1, 2016 3:04:14 GMT
I'd always thought it odd that so many families seem to cannibalize each other when times get tough. I'd seen it plenty in our extended family and really thought that I'd done all I could so that wouldn't happen in our own immediate family. I was wrong. As soon as our children were old enough to form alliances they did. Not surprisingly the older ED was the main pot stirrer. When tough times hit our family, meaning they didn't get what they wanted as adults that's when the feeding frenzy began in earnest. The more that I read and the more that I talk with people the more common it is for there to be emotional cannibals in the family when there is estrangement. There are always a few things that bring out the worst in people that are emotionally cannablistic, holidays, weddings, funerals or long term sickness, births, and money. Personally, I think it's partly because those of us that have a narcissist involve aren't getting ALL the attention during these type of life events.
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Post by topiarystepmom on Aug 1, 2016 13:49:51 GMT
Well, ours cannibalized in all sorts of times - good times and tough ones- they were Cannibals for all Seasons lol The hive mentality and a lack of proper raising by The Mommy did that to my husband's kids. They seemed okay on the surface of things but voila - rotten to the core as you dug deeper.
Alliances? Our ED was the Adolf Hitler of her time. Or maybe she was more like Stalin - except with finesse. Becaue when she'd slip in the knife, sometimes you didn't even feel it until she was long gone.
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Post by astlyr on Aug 13, 2016 2:54:35 GMT
Alliances? Our ED was the Adolf Hitler of her time. Or maybe she was more like Stalin - except with finesse. Because when she'd slip in the knife, sometimes you didn't even feel it until she was long gone. That's the way one of ours is also. Hilter of her time, definitely, a convincing orator with the best of them. Ours sometimes slide the knife in, then managed to talk her way into making it our fault, or make one of her siblings a scapegoat. I miss some of the times & some of the way that they were as children, but I DO NOT miss the women that they've become.
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